Mastering Acceptance Takes Patience & Practice
Acceptance seems to be out of fashion in the media these days. This is unfortunate because finding your way to mastering acceptance is the beginning of a rather wonderful journey. In fact, mastering acceptance revolutionises our connection with the world and transforms our creativity; giving us the ability to build confidence and self-esteem.
Mastering Acceptance Is A Journey of Testing And Feedback
The road to acceptance is one that takes practice and determination. When something you don’t like or want is heading in your direction, there’s a tendency to reject, swerve and avoid. Needless to say, that may feel better in the short term – “oooh I dodged a bullet there”. However, the minute we reject or wrestle with something, we create a barrier to our energy flow; it’s like locking yourself in a box.
Now, there are some moments when we feel overwhelmed, or fragile and vulnerable. In those instances we feel it’s right to block or reject, because it’s better than experiencing what’s coming in our direction. We can agree that’s a reasonable reaction.
What’s important, is to know there are benefits to allowing acceptance, letting everything flow and then looking at everything we have in our world and deciding what’s for us and what’s not.
5 Reasons To Embrace Acceptance
1. Accepting Everything Stops The Struggle & Resistance
If there is resistance anywhere in our field, we block our flow in all directions. Effectively, resistance in us attracts resistance in others.
What’s more, if we’re constantly resisting, fighting or struggling with the things coming our way, it creates imbalance in our emotions and can put us in survival mode, where we constantly operate from the mindset of “why do I have to fight?”. We rarely make useful decisions from this place. In addition, it’s challenging to be creative when we’re fighting something in the now.
When we’re directing our energy towards struggling or fighting, we’re limiting the energy we can direct towards creating what we want, we’re running on less fuel than we would be otherwise.
If we can work towards a state of peaceful acceptance, we aren’t saying that we agree or we like or we don’t what to change the situation we’re accepting. We are merely giving ourselves permission to be where we are right now and accepting what the current situation is.
2. When We’re Open To Acceptance We Get The Learning
If you hadn’t had all of your past experiences, positive and negative, would you be the person you are today? Unlikely. What’s more, like most of us, you’ll probably learn much faster from the negative experiences. There’s always more desire to hit the ‘do not repeat’ button on those!
Mastering Acceptance Acknowledges Like Attracts Like
We attract the energy we emit. We attract whatever is in our energy field. If we accept whatever comes in, we can then take our own time to understand what in us attracted that specific thing to us. If we attempt to deal with something we don’t want or don’t like in the moment we often act from fear or resistance.
This can prevent us from seeing the learning and give us the opportunity to create a story around the situation that is misleading, rather than coming from our truth, or a place of perspective or truth.
3. Easy Acceptance Minimises Our Inner Critic
A long time ago I read a fabulous book by Deepak Chopra called “The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success”. In fact, I can remember feeling so enamoured by the ideas I discovered within this gem, I wrote several of the points out in an email to all my friends. Ha! It was met with silence so perhaps I sent it to the wrong crowd there 🙂
Chopra suggests that we create turmoil and turbulence in our mind the moment we resist rather than accepting with open arms. I’m inclined to agree, based on my own experience!
When we can explore what has arrived in our experience from a place of calm and peace, we find ourselves in a higher vibration of curiosity, rather than blame, shame, guilt or any other low frequency emotion. It’s really challenging to find solutions and change our behaviour and thoughts from a low frequency emotion. From curiosity, it’s a much smaller leap to motivation to make any changes we want and to explore our inner selves.
4. Acceptance Gives Us A Solid Foundation & Saves Time
Even better, when we accept that a situation is real, rather than denying it or fighting it, we get to speak our truth freely. “So, this is where I am, I really don’t like this, it doesn’t matter how I got here, what am I going to do about it?” It’s actually quite empowering, because from this perspective, we open up choices and we can decide how we want to direct our energy to move beyond the situation.
Essentially, if we’re always judging what happens and then desperately trying to work out why something happened, rather than accepting that it did, we constantly find ourselves in living for short term happiness rewards. Even worse, we waste a lot of time thinking about the why and trapping ourselves in a stuck state.
If we can move into the habit of immediate acceptance, we allow ourselves to move into trust and then we allow in the possibility of long term happiness and enjoyment. We get back on the flow of emotional and physical momentum and allow ourselves to move forward.
5. Practising Acceptance Is 100% Purposeful and Active
Practising acceptance is 100% purposeful and active when we accept it from a place of trust and faith.
To be clear, if we’re accepting from a place of “wound” or “victim” mindset, then we are utterly passive. You know, “well life always deals me these cards, so be it.”
Mastering acceptance requires a great deal of practice. We must practice standing in uncomfortable emotions such as sadness, or disappointment and acknowledging them to keep them in momentum. We must practice active acceptance in the moment by directing our conscious mind to know that we are where we are and it’s okay. We must practice giving ourselves permission to be wherever we are. We must practice finding a place of peaceful acceptance from which to ask relevant questions and find empowering solutions. And we must practice reaching inside of ourselves to find the courage to try again – with gusto and determination.
It’s a practice that requires patience and being kind to yourself. It’s worth it!
Would You Like Some Support In Mastering Acceptance?
Listen to this 5-Minute Daily Rantra and use it as a daily audio support tool. The Rantra allows you to work towards mastering acceptance in a peaceful way. For best results, listen to it every morning for 21 days.
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