Everyone Feels Lost Sometimes. Is There An Elephant Sitting On Your Truth?
Sometimes, you may feel like you’re lost and don’t know who you are or what you want anymore. It’s almost like you have an elephant sitting on our emotions! If that’s how you’re feeling, keep reading these 5 tips to align with your truth, and work through the exercise to get yourself back on track.
If you’ve been operating in survival mode and you’re in rest and recovery mode, you may be feeling lost. If you’ve been struggling to get your work done, manage a busy home life, make ends meet or care for a loved one, you’ve probably suppressed your feelings just to get through the week.
Perhaps you’ve experienced loss in some form: been through a relationship breakdown, lost a loved one, or even a job. You may have experienced a chronic illness and now life looks and feels different. What motivated you before may seem futile. Whatever has been going on, you’ll be feeling off-kilter.
If this resonates with you, work through these 5 tips to align with your truth and lead yourself back into balance.
5 Tips To Align With Your Truth
Tip #1 - Align With Your Truth - Ease Your Way Into Inspiration
Get Inspired: Start by browsing the internet and looking for things that spark an emotional response. Take your time and explore. The flatness you might have been feeling could quickly shift into something else!
Tip #2 - Align With Your Truth - Purposeful Exploration
Purposeful Exploration: Imagine you are in a safe space, floating out in space and there is nobody else to consider. What do you type into the Google search bar? What do you want to know more about and what do you want to explore?
Tip #3 - Align With Your Truth - Lifting That Elephant
Lifting That Elephant: When your inspiration is moving, notice any feelings or thought limitations that come up for release. Use a technique that works for you (such as Time Line Therapy® hypnosis or any other self-help tools) to let them go and free yourself up into a new expanded self. If you’re looking for free tools, there are many on my YouTube channel.
Tip #4 - Align With Your Truth - Who Are You To You?
Who Are You To You? Learn to be honest with yourself, becoming aware of how your thoughts connect with your feelings and physical body. Notice when you feel a certain way and use your self-talk to reposition yourself in the right direction.
Tip #5 - A Commitment To Your Truth And Finding More Joy
Commitment To Finding Joy: Accepting your truth and understanding that other people’s behaviour is not about you can help you create an experience of success and well-being. It’s all about understanding who you are and connecting with your own values, so choose activities based on what feels right for you rather than what is “right” or “wrong”. This will lead you down the path of greater joy!
Being Aware Of Denial As A Coping Mechanism
We all go through times of denial – and that’s okay! Denial can actually be a useful coping mechanism when we’re overworked and overwhelmed.
However, if we really want to learn to know and speak our truth, we need to pay attention not just to our thoughts but to how they connect with our feelings and the physical sensations in our body.
By observing when we feel a certain way, as well as how our thoughts are flowing, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves – both when we’re alone, out in the world and even inside our own heads.
Now armed with this profound awareness, we can begin creating a mindset and life experience that works for us – one that helps us reach whatever success means to us.
Let's Expand On These 5 Tips To Align Your Truth With An Exercise
Do you ever feel like there’s something inside of you that’s holding you back from being your true self? It takes courage to be honest with ourselves and to accept our truth – even when it’s uncomfortable.
The first step is wanting to find our truth, and desire isn’t enough. We have to have the courage to face it and be willing to accept it for what it is – without judgment or resistance.
A great place to start is by recognising the incongruity between what we say and what we do. Doing this can help us identify any areas where we may need some work in order to get closer to our true selves.
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Think of something you believe you want to achieve and you haven’t yet done so. You know consciously you want it, we say we want it, and for some reason we don’t align our behaviour to achieve it.
Now you’re going to ask yourself these simple questions. Ready?
- Do I really want to do this?
- How do I know I really want to do this?
- What will change in my life when I achieve this?
- What will I have to start doing and what will I have to stop doing when I achieve this?
- Am I doing this for me, for someone else, or because I think I should?
- What is stopping me from doing this right now?
- When I think about starting on this project, how do I feel, and what happens in my self-talk.
Resist Judging Your Responses - Explore These Ideas
Just relax and allow the answers to form in your mind. Resist the urge to judge your responses, otherwise you’ll get stuck in your conscious mind. Feel inside for that inner knowing. Here are a few ideas to get you flowing.
- Prioritisation: something else is always more important.
- Process or organisation: I haven’t set myself up to make it easy to complete)
- Uncertainty or lack of familiarity: I haven’t done this before and I’m not sure how to do it?
- Emotional resistance: I am scared or embarrassed about the potential outcome?
- Belief blocked: Do I believe I can’t do it or that I won’t do it or that it’s not safe to do it?
- Financial Concerns: I don’t have enough money to do it now.
- Some other reason.
What Do You Do With The Answers?
Here are a few ideas.
Do I really want to do this?
1) No/Not really.
Perhaps I can choose to not do this, circumnavigate all the resistance and put my energies into something I really do want to do. Maybe I can choose to accept that I’m happy with no movement right now. What if I can accept that I don’t HAVE to want to do anything? I acknowledge that doing without purpose can be futile. So, if I don’t want that, do I know what I really do want?
2) Yes – 100%!
What can I do to re-arrange my life to ensure that I am moving towards it every single day. If I choose to prioritise this for myself I will find joy in doing it every day.
3) Yes, but I don’t have enough time/money/other resources right now.
What am I prioritising over this? Is it really more important? Is there a way I can do both? If what I’m prioritising something else, can I be more realistic about committing to a start date and time I can actually achieve? Have I actually set myself up logistically to make this easy for myself? For example, have I created a workspace, do I have privacy or space to do it? Am I sleeping well and eating well to support me in finding the energy to do it? Have I asked anyone to help me find the time by supporting me in other areas?
4) Yes, and I can’t find a logical reason why I’m not doing it!
Outside of logic is always an indicator of emotional resistance (a chunky negative emotion blocking your path) or a belief supporting you in your resistance. This can always be addressed with coaching work and breaking down your DOING so that it feels comfortable and safe.
Am I doing this for me, for someone else, or because I think I should?
Am I doing this for me, for someone else, or because I think I should?1) Yes, I am doing this for someone else. Am I choosing to do it for someone else, or if I thought I was free to choose would I just not do it? Is there anything in this for me? Can I benefit in anyway from doing this and is that important to me? Can I stop doing this now? What would happen if I didn’t do it? Am I ok with that?
2) I have to do this or I should do this. OK then, this is an alarm bell of resistance. It’s time to work on releasing the negative emotion or belief that is creating dis-empowerment here. When I’ve released it I am empowered to choose what’s right for me.
3) What is stopping me from doing this?
a) prioritisation
Am I sure I really want this? What is achieving this going to get for me? Does the desire level make it important enough to make time (even a small amount) for this today? How can I ask for help to make this happen?
b) process or organisation
If I were advising someone else to get ready to start, what would I suggest they get in place first? Can I do that? Can I do it now?
c) uncertainty or lack of familiarity
Do I know someone who has done this before? Can I get a guidance framework from them? Who can I ask for help? Is it ok for me to explore this and see how I get on?
d) emotional resistance
It’s time for some emotional clearing. How can I do that?
e) belief blocked
It’s time to know what I really believe about my ability to do this and the impact it will have on my life? How can I do this?
f) other reason
Is there any other reason why I would choose not to make this happen? How can I address that and remove the obstacle from my way?
Clearly, these are just 5 tips to align with your truth and this exploration above merely scratches the surface. Think of it as just the starting point. A place from which you can develop your own truth-divining style and approach!
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